Today, I opened my eyes and started filling my heart with the truths of God. I do it by reading the Bible, Christian articles, praying, worshipping, listening to worship songs.
For the first time after I became a Christian, I started reading articles about dating.
I am single as of this writing. I have never dated ever since I became a Christian 5 years ago. Dating suddenly became an unfamiliar ground...it became delicate, fragile, mysteriously beautiful and I refuse to jump at any opportunity. Dating no longer felt like a priority or a prerequisite. For me it is just a bonus to this already wonderful life with God.
And i found that the only difficult part of singlehood is the people around us. Singlehood is such a blessed state! There is so much freedom, so much time, so much opportunities to spend time with God and revel in his creation: travel, families, holidays, etc.
But the people in the lives of the single people are the thorns in this blessed state. They are those who think you are undesireable, those who assume you are miserable. They pity you, they interrogate you, they give unsolicited advices, they judge you--so much I have become adept in wearing my polite, bubble smile. The kind of smile wherein I politely enter my bubble and tune out what these peoples are saying. Because they don't understand, I'm having the time of my life! So much I never prayed for a spouse. I knew I am ready to die an old, single lady, perfectly loved and accepted by my Creator. I knew my needs are well-met by God even on this earth. In fact, I'm filled to the brim...an overflow that leads to reaching out to my families, the lost, the broken wherein I play my role as a child of God into leading them to this overflow love that was displayed on the Cross.
But last month, I developed an infatuation for someone whom I only knew from afar. In my past, I usually developed a deep crush for someone I have at least a level of friendship with and not for people I barely knew. I do crush on people I haven't even met, but they are tamed crushes that are usually fleeting. Nothing that will keep me away from sleep or food.
So when I started liking this guy, I started pursuing what God is saying about dating. I am in the early stages. I don't know anything about this guy and I don't know yet what God wants to show me. But so far, here's what have struck me as I read more about what God is saying about dating:
1. Marriage is worth having because you get God in your lifelong commitment to one another. Marriage is about knowing God, worshiping God, depending on God, displaying God, being made like God. God made man and woman in his image and joined them together, giving them unique responsibilities to care for one another in their broken, but beautiful union. Source
2. If the guy for me turns out to be exactly into item number 1, I would probably be so weak in the knees, head-over-feeet in love with this guy over and over. So I prayed as early as now, that no matter how good this future husband is, may he never steal the part of my heart that belongs to God and God alone.
For the first time after I became a Christian, I started reading articles about dating.
I am single as of this writing. I have never dated ever since I became a Christian 5 years ago. Dating suddenly became an unfamiliar ground...it became delicate, fragile, mysteriously beautiful and I refuse to jump at any opportunity. Dating no longer felt like a priority or a prerequisite. For me it is just a bonus to this already wonderful life with God.
And i found that the only difficult part of singlehood is the people around us. Singlehood is such a blessed state! There is so much freedom, so much time, so much opportunities to spend time with God and revel in his creation: travel, families, holidays, etc.
But the people in the lives of the single people are the thorns in this blessed state. They are those who think you are undesireable, those who assume you are miserable. They pity you, they interrogate you, they give unsolicited advices, they judge you--so much I have become adept in wearing my polite, bubble smile. The kind of smile wherein I politely enter my bubble and tune out what these peoples are saying. Because they don't understand, I'm having the time of my life! So much I never prayed for a spouse. I knew I am ready to die an old, single lady, perfectly loved and accepted by my Creator. I knew my needs are well-met by God even on this earth. In fact, I'm filled to the brim...an overflow that leads to reaching out to my families, the lost, the broken wherein I play my role as a child of God into leading them to this overflow love that was displayed on the Cross.
But last month, I developed an infatuation for someone whom I only knew from afar. In my past, I usually developed a deep crush for someone I have at least a level of friendship with and not for people I barely knew. I do crush on people I haven't even met, but they are tamed crushes that are usually fleeting. Nothing that will keep me away from sleep or food.
So when I started liking this guy, I started pursuing what God is saying about dating. I am in the early stages. I don't know anything about this guy and I don't know yet what God wants to show me. But so far, here's what have struck me as I read more about what God is saying about dating:
1. Marriage is worth having because you get God in your lifelong commitment to one another. Marriage is about knowing God, worshiping God, depending on God, displaying God, being made like God. God made man and woman in his image and joined them together, giving them unique responsibilities to care for one another in their broken, but beautiful union. Source
2. If the guy for me turns out to be exactly into item number 1, I would probably be so weak in the knees, head-over-feeet in love with this guy over and over. So I prayed as early as now, that no matter how good this future husband is, may he never steal the part of my heart that belongs to God and God alone.
